She doesn't see the problem...

She thinks that it is a simple matter of believing what she is saying. And that I am just not letting go of what happened in the past.

Let me make one thing perfectly clear. This has NOTHING to do with anything that happened before March 4th.

This has to do with the fact that I am STILL finding recent communication attempts. NOT past, recent!

Try to look at it through my eyes. On one hand you have a loving wife who tells you that she is deeply in love with you and that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. And to prove it she offers up the fact that she is there with you.

On the other hand you find out that she has been calling and visiting the other man. You also find several notes writen to or about this other man. And several of those notes say "I will wait for you". Some of these notes also say that you are astranged in your own home. And that the couple is in the process of a divorce. The notes, he knows tell the truth, because they were never intended for him to see. Therefore he knows that they are true or were true at the time they were written.

So now I am in the midst of a big uncertanty. On one hand I want more than ever to trust and believe her. But there is no proof. There is nothing concrete, nothing that can't be denied. Only words. Words that were written for me to see.

On the other I have TONS of proof that she would rather be with the other man, but this proof may be out of date.

So I tell her a way to wash away the uncertanty. A way for there to be something undeniable, that would prove that she indeed does love me and is here of her own choosing.

But instead I get excuses.

1. It was done already, it would be stupid to do it again.
2. I can't do it because I promised that I would not talk to him.
3. Even if I did do it, you would not believe it.

If you don't want to truely end it with him you could just say NO.

The ball is in your court.